You might think trash-talking their ex is a good sign because it seems like they're over the marriage. Depending on how it ended, some bitterness might be warranted, but if they're constantly bad-mouthing their ex, they could be harboring a lot of complicated feelings towards their ex and aren't ready to do it all over again just yet.
Talking badly about their ex can also be a way to deflect the blame for a failed marriage onto them. "If a potential mate describes their exes as crazy instead of taking 50% of the responsibility . . . [there's a good chance you could] become their next 'crazy ex,'" LMFT Amber Trueblood told Verywell Mind. As licensed clinical social worker Keresse Thompson explained to Best Life, "If someone shows absolutely no self-awareness or no lessons that they learned from their previous situations, that can be a huge red flag."
You should also be wary of how often they're talking to their ex, as talking to their ex all the time could mean they haven't let go of them. Ideally, they should stay in touch without blowing up each other's phones. Another red flag to keep an eye out for is whether or not they're answering your questions. When you first begin a relationship naturally have a lot of questions, and your partner should be willing to answer them. Otherwise, they might be living in disbelief or hiding something.
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